He apologised for not coming round last week . We had a chat indoors and 
then he went with me to get some groceries from Tesco express.
I had told him that i was having difficulty working out what stuff i 
needed to get so he helped me work out a short shopping list before we went.
I got quite anxious and agitated going round the Tesco especially when 
it got to packing stuff at the check out. He was very supportive and 
understanding. On the way home was wanting to get back indoors as soon 
as possible . Had a mild attack of hyperventilating.

firemonkey wrote:
> He apologised for not coming round last week . We had a chat indoors and 
> then he went with me to get some groceries from Tesco express.
> I had told him that i was having difficulty working out what stuff i 
> needed to get so he helped me work out a short shopping list before we 
> went.
> I got quite anxious and agitated going round the Tesco especially when 
> it got to packing stuff at the check out. He was very supportive and 
> understanding. On the way home was wanting to get back indoors as soon 
> as possible . Had a mild attack of hyperventilating.


i'm glad to hear that he's been in contact and vice versa.  and it's 
good to see the level is back to a form of trust again.

i get the feeling that Tesco's invokes a similar experience in many 
people...

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humble.life wrote:

> firemonkey wrote:
> 
>> He apologised for not coming round last week . We had a chat indoors 
>> and then he went with me to get some groceries from Tesco express.
>> I had told him that i was having difficulty working out what stuff i 
>> needed to get so he helped me work out a short shopping list before we 
>> went.
>> I got quite anxious and agitated going round the Tesco especially when 
>> it got to packing stuff at the check out. He was very supportive and 
>> understanding. On the way home was wanting to get back indoors as soon 
>> as possible . Had a mild attack of hyperventilating.
> 
> 
> 
> i'm glad to hear that he's been in contact and vice versa.  and it's 
> good to see the level is back to a form of trust again.

I echo that.

> i get the feeling that Tesco's invokes a similar experience in many 
> people...

Not for religious reasons, but I can't remember ever visiting a Tesco on 
a Sunday. I'd guess it was relatively busy.

I prefer to shop round midnight when the shop is almost devoid of other 
customers, but that assumes 24 hour opening.

I hope your feeling better now, firemonkey.

Evil Nigel

nigel wrote:
> x-no-archive: yes
> 
> humble.life wrote:
> 
>> firemonkey wrote:
>>
>>> He apologised for not coming round last week . We had a chat indoors 
>>> and then he went with me to get some groceries from Tesco express.
>>> I had told him that i was having difficulty working out what stuff i 
>>> needed to get so he helped me work out a short shopping list before 
>>> we went.
>>> I got quite anxious and agitated going round the Tesco especially 
>>> when it got to packing stuff at the check out. He was very supportive 
>>> and understanding. On the way home was wanting to get back indoors as 
>>> soon as possible . Had a mild attack of hyperventilating.
>>
>>
>>
>> i'm glad to hear that he's been in contact and vice versa.  and it's 
>> good to see the level is back to a form of trust again.
> 
> I echo that.
> 
>> i get the feeling that Tesco's invokes a similar experience in many 
>> people...
> 
> Not for religious reasons, but I can't remember ever visiting a Tesco on 
> a Sunday. I'd guess it was relatively busy.
> 
> I prefer to shop round midnight when the shop is almost devoid of other 
> customers, but that assumes 24 hour opening.
> 
> I hope your feeling better now, firemonkey.
> 
> Evil Nigel
> 

I am feeling better now. What threw me with the check outs was that they 
were like what you get at a cigarette kiosk ie not much space to put 
stuff to be scanned and then pack it into shopping bags.
I much prefer going through a proper checkout aisle where there is room 
to unpack stuff out of the basket and then put it in my shopping bags 
once it's been scanned .
As a general rule if i have got a lot of shopping and there is not a 
main check out available i end up putting my basket down and going back 
home empty handed.


The young girl at the check out  was very good though.She packed the 
stuff into the shopping bags for me. Some checkout staff can be quite 
unsympathetic when you are flustered which can and does make one even 
more flustered  and even more likely to be all fingers and thumbs.

The shop, which i had not used before,  was busier than my befriender 
had said it would be but not particularly busy.

My best time for shopping would be either very early or very late when 
there is not many people about but not if the main checkouts are not 
manned and i have to  go to pay at the cigarette kiosk instead.

It was the first time i had been out the door since Wednesday and been 
dressed since Thursday.A lot of the time i don't want to go out the 
house unless i really have to ie paying  CC or making sure i have got 
food and litter in for the cat.

I told them i was having problems re not wanting to go out and 
motivating myself to do things  a while back when i was going through  a 
very acute bout of anxiety  and they said they would try and arrange a 
few groups for me to do at the day centre
to give me some incentive to go out and not be so isolated but now my 
anxiety has gone down to a more  normal level (for me) they seem to 
have(conveniently) forgotten about that.

humble.life wrote:

> 
> i get the feeling that Tesco's invokes a similar experience in many 
> people...

I don't have a big Tescos within walking distance of where i live  but 
going round the local Sainsburys especially if it is packed with people 
can be quite intimidating/nerve wracking.
Then there's the issue of being visually/mentally overwhelmed by all the 
stuff that's there to look out and possibly buy.